Having a meaningful conversation with a girl is an enjoyable experience. Many men think of ways of starting a conversation with a total stranger in the hope that one thing could lead to another. The problem is, they simply don’t know where to start.
This is where a lot of men fail when they want to get into a chit chat. They always think that there is a magic topic of conversation that works. Actually, there’s none! The more you think about a topic, the more your will fail. Casual conversations do not start with a topic. That’s why it is called casual!
Getting into that “I-must-have-a-conversation-topic” frame of mind is a death trap. What if the girl you’re talking with is not even interested in the topic that you brought up? Literally, you will just see yourself in that awkward moment of silence when you begin to think, “This is going nowhere!” And mind you, the girl you’re with is thinking the same. Even before you have your hand on the bat, you are already out when you spend so much time thinking about what to talk about.
Getting Ready to Bat
You surely must have lady friends, right? Think about how to talk to girls or how you start a conversation with them. Don’t say that they are familiar with you that’s why it’s easier to engage them in a conversation. You don’t think about any topic when you are going to meet them, are you? You simply get together, say your usual hi’s and hello’s, the you ask them “How are you doing?”
And that is a good opener for a conversation, something as casual as asking how the girl is doing. Now that you have an opening, how do you make the follow through? Oops, STOP!… you’re in that topic mindset again!
The Follow Through
Just be natural and go with the flow. When we say go with the flow, take note of where you are. If you are in a club after a day at the office, chances are the girl is there for the same reason. So you can make a comment like, “Long day at work, huh?” It may or may not be the right comment, but it will definitely elicit a response from the girl. And that response is the only thing you need to keep the conversation going.
If she doesn’t respond, observe the non-verbal signs. She may not have said a word, but she may have smiled back at you. Worse scenario is she’ll just frown and ignore you. If that’s the case, just move on. Say something like, “See you around,” and walk away. No need to let yourself suffer by insisting on drawing out a response. If this is the case, then you struck out not because the pitcher was good; but because you were simply a horrible batter.
Out of the Field and Into the Stands!
Now, if you get a promising response, whether verbal or not, maximize! Offer the lady a drink or something and introduce yourself! Ask her if it’s alright to sit down with her and keep her company. Then you can continue your conversation by simply talking about work, likes and dislikes, or even just what happened during the day. When you are in a certain level of comfort with each other, that’s the time that you can bring your topic out of your pocket! Or maybe not! Just go for the home run!